Goal Setting 2

I enjoyed hearing from the whole class about their top tips for goal-setting. My favorites were these:

- I would ask you to visualize your ideal life—the relationships, the people, the projects—identifying where you get the most energy. I would especially use this with people who are living in a world of “shoulds”. If you don’t know who you really are, then it’s hard to set goals, isn’t it? The women I work with are focused on their children, their jobs, and their husbands. They are always last, and at the end of the day, there is no time for them. If this is you, I would ask you to try to figure out, “Which part of this is me? Where do I fit in my life so things work in a harmonious way?” This kind of question would work well in a workshop setting.

- I use the task manager in Outlook. I only put 3 things on my to-do list for daily tasks. These are my top priorities. Then, I don’t get overwhelmed by all the other things waiting to get done.

- Sometimes I narrow it down to one small thing and I get it done today. For example, I ordered my business cards, but then I was motivated to go ahead and order a web site. Even one small step can grow into a momentum that will keep you going. I want to help the clients take that one step.

- I ask my clients two questions to make sure they are setting their own goals, and not someone else’s: (1) Whose life do you see that you admire? What are five qualities that you see in that person that you admire? (2) Whose life would you wish not to have and what are their five qualities that you don’t want in your life?

- I wrote a mission statement, what I value. And then I set goals from that. I would use that with people who are really serious and want to go really far. I think a mission statement can be really effective with some clients who are ready for broad changes.

- I ask you, “What is the value of your goal? What will happen if you achieve it? What would you miss out on if you don’t achieve this goal?

- What are your strengths? What are your values? My goal is to help people express who they are. Sometimes people are raised to think they should do a certain thing. If they express who they are, they can get positive results and a lot of happiness. What is it that you love to do? What have people complimented you on? You may be self-critical, so give yourself credit for the strengths you have.

- I would ask you, “If you achieved the goal, how would it make a difference in your life?”

- It’s good to drill down to find what is giving substance to a goal. What is the being part as opposed to the doing part. Why does it matter to you at a fundamental level. Solid goal setting fuels itself.

- I would ask, “If you had all the money in the world—more than you could ever spend in your lifetime, what would you want to do that would make a difference in the world?”

- I would use the SMART system, because then it has to become very concrete. Then I can discover if you actually plan to achieve your goal and take action.

- It can be easy to set a goal that sounds good when we say it, but doesn’t have the energy behind it to pull us forward. I try to find out how realistic your goals are—do they fit into their daily schedule (like-I wanted to start journaling, so I take my notebook with me in the car and sit in the parking lot before going in to work)

- I would ask people what the cost is. What old behavior do I choose to give up in order to focus on my new behavior and to fit it into my schedule?

- What is your unique perspective that you want to bring to goal-setting? Do you like setting goals, do you find them constraining, do you set too many of them?

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